Oppression / Marilyn Frye -- Woman is not our brother / Simone de Beauvior -- Why men resist / William J. Goode -- White privilege and male privilege: A personal account of coming to see correspondences through work in women's studies / Peggy McIntosh -- The uses of anger: Women responding to racism / Audre Lorde -- Growing up Asian in America / Kesaya E. Noda -- Toward a feminist theory of disability / Susan Wendell -- Outrageous acts and everyday rebellions / Gloria Steinem -- "Pricks" and "Chicks": A plea for "Persons" / Robert Baker -- Who is man? / Casey Miller and Kate Swift -- Talking Back / Bell Hooks -- Gay irony / Brian Pronger -- Hair and clothes / Susan Brownmiller -- The unadorned feminist / Janet Radcliffe-Richards -- Geeks / Anne Minas and Jake Minas -- The Workplace and Sports -- Women and power in the workplace / Hilary M. Lips -- Is marriage the culprit? / Harriet Lyons -- Target Hiring / Anne Minas -- The comparable worth debate / Ellen Frankel Paul -- Sharing the shop floor / Stan Gray -- Masculinities and athletic careers: Bonding and status differences / Michael A. Messner -- Women, sport, and sexuality / Helen Lenskyj -- Love's Bond / Robert Nozick -- Friends and lovers / Laurence Thomas --On falling in love / Geoffrey Gorer -- Lovers through the looking glass / Kath Weston -- The woman in love / Simone de Beauvoir -- The arrogant eye, the loving eye, and the beloved / Marilyn Frye -- Relationships: What is Worth Seeking or Avoiding -- Honesty and intimacy / George Graham and Hugh LaFollette -- Openness / Jonathan Glover -- The civic advocacy of violence / Wayne Ewing -- Violence in intimate relationships: A feminist perspective / Bell Hooks -- Altruism and vulnerability / Sarah Lucia Hoagland -- Trusting ex-intimates / Annette Baier -- Bonds -- Commitment and the value of marriage / Gordon Graham -- Marital faithfulness / Susan Mendus -- The Princess / "Niccola Machiavelli" -- Black men / black women: Changing roles and relationships / Robert Staples -- Implications of the emerging family / John Scanzoni -- Is "Straight" to "Gay" as "Family" is to "No Family"? / Kath Weston -- Fighting for same sex marriage / Craig R. Dean -- The married woman / Simone de Beauvoir -- The case for feminist revolution / Shulamith Firestone -- Marriage as a bad business deal / Michael D. Bayles -- Sexuality / Robert Nozick -- The language of sex: The heterosexual questionnaire / M. Rochlin -- The language of sex: Our conception of sexual intercourse / Robert Baker -- Who's on top? Heterosexual practices and male dominance during the sex act / Mercedes Steedman -- In pursuit of the perfect penis: The medicalization of male sexuality / Lenore Tiefer -- Gay basics: Some questions, facts, and values / Richard Mohr -- Sex and cultural privacy / Richard Mohr -- Lesbian "sex" / Marilyn Frye -- Women and AIDS: Too little, too late / Nora Kizer Bell -- My friend: He's dead / Brenda Timmins -- Men on rape / Tim Beneke -- I never called it rape / Robin Warshaw -- Sexual harassment / Rosemarie Tong -- The lecherous Professor: Sexual harassment on campus / Billie Wright Dziech and Linda Weiner -- I'm a hooker: Every woman's profession / Terri-Lee d'Aaron -- Charges against prostitution: An attempt at a philosophical assessment / Lars O. Ericsson -- Defending prostitution: Charges against Ericsson / Carole Pateman -- Pornography in capitalism: Powerlessness / Alan Soble -- Francis Biddle's sister: Pornography, civil rights, and speech / Catharine MacKinnon -- The roots of pornography / David Steinberg -- Gays and the pornography movement: Having the hots for sex discrimination / John Stoltenberg -- The purpose of sex / St. Thomas Aquinas -- Society and the fertile woman: Contraception / Janet Radcliffe-Richards -- Society and the fertile woman: Abortion / Janet Radcliffe-Richards -- The mother / Simone de Beauvoir -- Why abortion is immoral / Don Marquis -- What about us? / Brenda Timmins -- Abortion and bad reasoning / Alix Nalezinski -- If men could menstruate / Gloria Steinem -- Childbirth / Christine Overall -- Children by donor insemination: A new choice for lesbians / Francie Hornstein -- Selling babies and selling bodies / Sara Ann Ketchum -- The ethics of surrogacy / Jonathan Glover -- Having children and the market economy / Jonathan Glover -- Ambition / Susan Brownmiller -- Marianismo: The other face of Machismo in Latin America / Evelyn P. Stevens -- When women and men mother / Diane Ehrensaft -- Why men don't rear children / M. Rivka Polatnick -- Anna Karenina, Scarlet O'Hara, and Gail Bezarie: Child custody and family law reform / Susan Crean -- The anti-feminist backlash: Or why custody is a fatherhood issue / Susan Crean -- Why young women are more conservative / Gloria Steinem -- Age, race, class, and sex: Women redefining difference / Audre Lorde -- From maturity to old age / Simone de Beauvoir -- It hurts to be alive and obsolete / Zoe Moss -- Look me in the eye / Barbara Macdonald -- The view from over the hill / Baba Copper.
Includes bibliographical references (pages 201-206).
1. Matrimorphosis: Women into Wives -- 2. The Witness -- 3. The Wife -- 4. The Ghost of Marriage Past -- 5. Marriage Shock -- 6. Reverberations -- 7. Of Two Minds -- 8. The Protection Racket -- 9. The Single Standard -- 10. How to Murder a Wife.
Heyn explains the plague of contemporary divorce - initiated by women two thirds of the time - from a revolutionary new perspective: It's not bad relationships that cause wives to walk out; nor is it boredom, time, or overblown expectations. Rather, it's the institution of marriage itself, with the myriad hidden constraints that long ago shaped it, that is behind this phenomenon. By examining the complex experience of "marriage shock," Heyn carefully charts how the institution can silently sabotage the very love and commitment a couple envision. Elegantly argued and resounding with the voices of women and men, Marriage Shock is a ground-breaking book that will change the way we think about marriage - and about divorce. Heyn's compassionate conclusion is that marriage can be saved only when we stop trying to "fix" wives so they fit into it - and instead fix marriage to embrace and nourish wives.
Includes bibliographical references (pages 205-216) and index.
Who are we? -- A horror beyond tears: Reflection on a history of abuse -- A pyrrhic victory: Contemplating the physical cost of surviving -- Disenchanting faith and the femaile body: Deconstructing misogynous themes in Christian Doctrine -- A thinly veiled skein: Exploring troublesome connections among incest, eating disorders, k and religious discourse -- Self-help or self-harm? Analyzing the "Politics" of twelve-step groups for recovery -- Summary of key findings.
"How do survivors of sexual and domestic violence relate to religion and to a higher power? What are the social and religious contexts that sustain and encourage eating disorders in women? How do these issues intersect? The relationship between Christian religious discourse, incest, and eating disorders reveals an important, and so far unexamined, psychosocial phenomenon. Drawing from interviews with incest survivors whose sexual and religious backgrounds are intimately connected with their problematic relationship with food, Jennifer Manlowe here illuminates the connections between female body, weight, and appetite preoccupations. Manlowe offers social and psychological insights into the most common forms of female suffering-incest and body hatred. The volume is intended as a resource for professionals, advocates, friends of survivors, and most importantly, the survivor of incest herself as she attempts to understand the links of meaning in her mind between her incest experience and her subsequent eating disorder"--Publisher description.