Originally published: New York : HarperCollins, 1996.
Includes bibliographical references (pages 271-280) and index.
Stage one: Reacting to the affair: "Is what I'm feeling normal?" 1. The hurt partner's response: buried in an avalanche of losses -- 2. The unfaithful partner's response: lost in a labyrinth of choices -- Stage two: Reviewing your options: "Should I stay or leave?" 3. Exploring your ideas about love -- 4. Confronting your doubts and fears -- Stage three: Recovering from the affair: "How do we rebuild our life together?" 5. Learning from the affair -- 6. Restoring trust -- 7. How to talk about what happened -- 8. Sex again -- 9. Learning to forgive.
A guide for couples provides exercises to help readers overcome feelings of betrayal and recommit to marriage.
Includes bibliographical references (pages 304-337) and index.
Part I: Partners' questions. The basics -- Allies in healing -- My needs and feelings -- Dealing with crisis -- More about sexual abuse -- Intimacy and communication -- Sex -- Family issues -- Final thoughts -- Part II: Partners' stories. An introduction -- Jack's story: recovering together -- Marise's story: "she works really hard and so do I" -- Noah's story: crisis and cult abuse -- Eric's story: the support of others -- Lorraine's story: breaking up -- Richard's story: a year at a time -- Scott's story: building trust over time -- Virginia's story: forging a commitment.
A guide for partners of survivors of child sexual abuse addresses their needs as secondary victims and offers practical advice on supporting their loved ones on the path to recovery while attending to their own needs.
Includes bibliographical references (pages 279-283) and index.
pt. 1. Your relationship toolkit : deciphering attachment styles -- pt. 2. The three attachment styles in everyday life -- pt. 3. When attachements styles clash -- pt. 4. The secure way : sharpening your relationship skills.
Introduces the theory of adult attachment as an advanced relationship science that can enable individuals to find and sustain love, offering insight into the roles of genetics and early family life in how people approach relationships.
1. The art of saying "no" -- 2. How to practice abstinence -- 3. How to protect your boundaries -- 4. How girls can avoid getting into trouble -- 5. How guys can avoid getting into trouble -- 6. Understanding the opposite sex.
Depicts realistic situations that are designed to help students who are at risk for unsafe or undesirable dating experiences.