Records of civilization, sources and studies ; no. 33.
"The basis of the translation is Trojel's edition [Andreae capellani regii Francorum De amore libri tres. Recensuit E. Trojel. 1892]"--Preface.
Includes bibliographical references (pages 213-218).
Book One: introduction to the treatise on love -- I. what love is -- II. between what persons love may exist -- III. where love gets its name -- IV. what the effect of love is -- V. what persons are fit for love -- VI. in what manner love may be acquired and in how many ways, first dialogue: a man of the middle class speaks with a women of the same class, second dialogue: a man of the middle class speaks with a women of nobility, third dialogue: a man of the middle class speaks with a women of a higher nobility, fourth dialogue: a nobleman speaks with a women of the middle class, fifth dialogue: a nobleman speaks with a noble women, sixth dialogue: a man of the higher nobility speaks with a women of the middle class, seventh dialogue: a man of the higher nobility speaks with a women of the simple nobility, eighth dialogue: a man of the higher nobility speaks with a women of the same class -- VII. the love of the clergy -- VIII. the love of nuns -- IX. love got with money -- X. the easy attainment of ones object -- XI. the love of peasants -- XII. the love of prostitutes -- Book Two: how love may be retained -- I. How love, when it has been acquired, may be kept -- II. how a love, once consummated, may be increased -- III. in what love may come to an end -- V. indications that ones love is returned -- VI. if one of the lovers is unfaithful to the other -- VII. various decisions in love cases -- VIII. the rules of love -- Book three: the rejection of love.
Elaborates on the rules governing conduct of lovers and Courts of Love in France of the 12th century. Translation from medieval Latin.
A healthy sex life begins with exploring the attitudes formed in our youth -- Creating relationships in which both partners are equal -- Sexual self-confidence means being honest with yourself -- Masturbation teaches us how our bodies work sexually -- We all need love and acceptance more than sex -- Nothing blocks sexual pleasure more than orgasm stress -- Honest communication builds trust, and trust builds the best sex -- Taking charge of your sex life -- Learning from our relationship mistakes -- Trusting your inner wisdom to connect with your true partner -- The new sexual evolution: changing our attitudes about sex and relationships.
Includes bibliographical references (pages 413-440) and index.
Waiting -- Meeting -- Encounter -- Embodiment -- Desire -- Language -- Disclosure -- Kissing -- Gender -- Power -- Others -- Jealousy -- Selfhood -- Proposal -- Wedding -- Sex -- Marriage -- Ending.
"The Culture of Love interprets the sweeping change in loving that spanned a period when scientific discoveries reduced the terrors and dangers of sex, when new laws gave married women control over their earnings and their bodies, when bold novelists and artists shook off the prudishness and hypocrisy that so paralyzed the Victorians. As public opinion, family pressure, and religious conviction loosened, men and women took charge of their love. Stephen Kern argues that, in contrast to modern sex, Victorian sex was anatomically constricted, spatially confined, morally suspect, deadly serious, and abruptly over. Kern divides love into its elements and traces profound changes in each: from waiting for love to ending it. Most revealing are the daring ways moderns began to talk about their current lovemaking as well as past lovers. While Victorians viewed jealousy as a 'foreign devil, ' moderns began to acknowledge responsibility for it. Desire lost its close tie with mortal sin and became the engine of artistic creation; women's response to the marriage proposal shifted from mere consent to active choice. There were even new possibilities of kissing, beyond the sudden, blind, disembodied, and censored Victorian meeting of lips. Kern's evidence is mainly literature and art, including classic novels by the Brontèes, Flaubert, Hugo, Eliot, Hardy, Forster, Colette, Proust, Mann, Joyce, Woolf, Lawrence, Hemingway, Fitzgerald, and Musil as well as the paintings and sculptures of Millais, Courbet, Gâerãome, Rodin, Munch, Klimt, Schiele, Valadon, Chagall, Kandinsky, Kokoschka, Picasso, Matisse, and Brancusi. The book's conceptual foundation comes from Heidegger's existential philosophy, in particular his authentic-inauthentic distinction, which Kern adapts to make his overall interpretation and concluding affirmation of the value of authenticity: 'The moderns may have lost some of the Victorians' delicacy and poignancy, perhaps even some of their heroism, but in exchange became more reflective of what it means to be a human being in love and hence better able to make that loving more their very own.'"--Publisher's description.
Kern divides love into its elements and traces profound changes in each. Evidence is mainly literature and art including classic novels, paintings, and sculptures. The books conceptual foundation comes from Heidegger's existential philosophy.