Are you really that into him? -- Sex. You're not that into him either, but you slept with him anyway ; You're not that into him either, but you thought you could have sex like a man ; You're not that into him either, but that didn't stop him from having sex like a man ; Multiple choices, volume 1 -- The marketplace. You're not that into him either, but you dated him in the meantime ; You're not that into him either, but there are no good men left ; You're not that into him either, but all your friends are getting married ; Multiple choices, volume 2 -- The cycle. You're not that into him either, but you're trapped on the dismal dating treadmill ; You're not that into him either, but you needed him to be into you ; You're not that into hi (or anyone), and you've given up on finding love ; The case -- A tassled man comes calling, or, How I got married / by Lisa Rubisch (Ian's wife).
Come on. Admit it. He may not be that into you, but were you ever really that into him? He was never "the one," but you lowered your standards and dated him in the meantime. Why? For any number of reasons: you thought dating him was better than being alone, all your friends are getting married--you name it. And before you knew it, you got hung up on the jerk. Go figure. Now clinical sexologist Kerner explores the battlefield of sex and the dismal dating treadmill, simultaneously arming women with a sharper set of insights and the tools for change.--From publisher description.
A healthy sex life begins with exploring the attitudes formed in our youth -- Creating relationships in which both partners are equal -- Sexual self-confidence means being honest with yourself -- Masturbation teaches us how our bodies work sexually -- We all need love and acceptance more than sex -- Nothing blocks sexual pleasure more than orgasm stress -- Honest communication builds trust, and trust builds the best sex -- Taking charge of your sex life -- Learning from our relationship mistakes -- Trusting your inner wisdom to connect with your true partner -- The new sexual evolution: changing our attitudes about sex and relationships.
"Originally published in the USA in 2003 as How to be a babe"--Title page verso.
Includes bibliographical references.
The fine art of becoming a babe -- The roots of romantic obsession -- Overcoming romantic obsessions and setting yourself free -- Release the shame, unleash the slut -- Our erotic seventh sense -- Kindling erotic fantasy -- Cultivating self-pleasure and self-love -- Pure exposure, extreme eroticism -- Babes in action -- Afterplay.
Machine derived contents note: Table Of Contents -- Introduction: A Casual Affair X -- Part I: The Bare Essentials -- Setting the Hookup Scene X -- In My Opinion: Real Guys and Girls Define What "Hooking Up" Means to Them -- X -- Talk this Way: Impress Your Friends with this Booty Lingo X -- Where the Boys Are: The Hookup Hotspots X -- Domestic Bliss: The Hookup-Friendly Bachelorette Pad X -- Your Own Personal Hookup Contract: Break This and There Will Be Hell to Pay -- X -- Part II: Typecasting -- The Players in the Game X -- Are You My Boyfriend?: The Non-Relationship Relationship X -- The Metroman: The Tragically Hip, Urban Metrosexual X -- Drink Till He's Cute: The Fall-Down-Drunk Hookup X -- Mr. December: The Older Man X -- Pass the Sippy Cup: The Younger Man X -- Back to the Future: The Ex-Boyfriend X -- Putting in Overtime: Coworker Canoodling X -- The Best Bud Tryst: When Platonic Turns Erotic X -- The Cheater: The Guy with a Girlfriend X -- Girls Gone Wild: The Spring Break Fling X -- The Joey Buttafuoco: The Boy Who Drives You Crazy -- Literally X -- The Himbo: The Boy Toy X -- I Thought We Had Something Special: The Boy Who Wants More X -- The Snuffleupagus: The Hookup You Deny, But Your Friends Really Know Exists -- X -- Part III -- The Morning After: What Happens When the Buzz Wears Off X -- Rise and Shine: Who the Hell Are You and What Are You Doing on My Side of -- the Bed? X -- Not the Time to Stop for a Danish and Coffee: The Walk of Shame Rears Its -- Uncombed Head X -- Dial "D" for Drama: Pick Up the Phone and Call, Asshole X -- He Called, Now What?: Going for a Repeat Performance X -- Non-Relationship Limbo: Entering the What-the-Hell-Are We Phase X -- Stranger Things Have Happened: Three True Tales from Hookup to Relationship -- X -- Last Call: You Don't Have to Go Home with Him, But You Can't Stay Here -- X.
Provides women with a guide to nondating, or "hooking up," describing how to find men, deal with the morning after, types of men, and ending a relationship.