The Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network (glsen) aims to unite with educators in cultivating an informed citizenry and future generations of children who respect and accept all people, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. By supporting educators in their efforts to build schools where information and expression flow freely, glsen hopes to advance democratic values in classrooms across the nation. This guide provides a means for educators and parents to address questions about civil rights and sexual identity, in an open and direct way. As legislative hearings take place to determine the fate of marriage in states around the country, students will need guidance in order to integrate this complex information and to form their own opinions. This curriculum guide will help students explore the complex issues reflected in the debate on same-sex marriages. Following the lesson plans, readings are included to provide students with a fuller understanding of the many facets involved in the marriage debate. These articles include topics on: (1) meaning and purpose of marriage; (2) rights of civil marriage; (3) historical context and parallels; (4) spiritual unions; (5) influence on youth; and (6) recent decisions in Vermont and California. Also included are Appendix One, "Universal Declaration of Human Rights," and Appendix Two, "The Struggle To Legalize Same-Sex Relationships in the U.S., a Brief Timeline." (Contains 19 resources.) (Author/JDM).
Includes bibliographical references (pages 599-614).
Introduction: What is marriage? An exploration / Don Browning -- Why get married at all?: From The future of marriage in western civilization / Edward Westermarck -- Genesis 1-4 -- The man with no family to take leave of / Tu Fu -- The seven benedictions of Jewish marriage -- "The fifth day," from The decameron / Giovanni Boccaccio -- The judgment / Franz Kafka -- What are we promising?: I Corinthians 7:1-39 -- The good of marriage / St. Augustine -- From the Summa Theologica / St. Thomas Aquinas -- The wedding ceremony from the Book of common prayer -- "Marriage," from The colloquies / Desiderius Erasmus.
"An iron net," from the Hindu Mahabharata / William Buck -- From On modern marriage and other observations / Isak Dinesen -- Can love last a lifetime?: "The great rooted bed," Book 23 in The Odyssey / Homer -- Cupid and Psyche / Apuleius -- "Izutsu / Zeami Motokiyo -- Othello, act III, scene III / William Shakespeare -- From The mystery of love and marriage: a study in the theology of sexual relation / Derrick Sherwin Bailey -- From The good marriage: how and why love lasts / Judith Wallerstein -- Should I marry one of my own?: From Medea / Euripides -- Judges 14-15 -- The book of Ruth.
The thirteenth night / Higuchi Ichiyo -- From Love / Elizabeth von Arnim -- "A Jew discovered," from The color of water: a black man's tribute to his white mother / James McBride -- How do we handle money?: From Politics / Aristotle -- Proverbs 31 -- Beginning of Spring--a stroll with my wife / Hsu Chun Ch'ien -- From Pride and prejudice / Jane Austen -- From Paradise lost / John Milton -- Marriage / Bronislaw Malinowski -- Who's the head of the family?: Ephesians 5:22-33 -- "The wife of Bath," from The canterbury tales / Geoffrey Chaucer -- The man makes and the woman takes / an African-American folktale.
The taming of the shrew, act III, scene II; act IV, scenes I and II / William Shakespeare -- From On the subjection of women / John Stuart Mill -- From Getting married / George Bernard Shaw -- Gender politics: love and power in the private and public spheres / Francesca M. Cancian -- What about children?: Genesis 17-18:15; 22:1-19 -- Psalms 127:3-5; 128 -- The forsaken wife / Ts'ao Chih -- The estate of marriage / Martin Luther -- From Anna Karenina / Leo Tolstoy -- From To the lighthouse / Virginia Woolf.
What about when we fight?: For better, for worse / Joseph E. Kerns -- On questions of marriage and sex: to Stephen Roth / Martin Luther -- From Daniel Deronda / George Eliot -- Who's afraid of Virginia Woolf? act I / Edward Albee -- Your beloved foe / Bill Cosby -- From The seven principles for making marriage work / John Gottman -- What about divorce?: Deuteronomy 24:1-5 -- Matthew 19:1-11; Mark 10:2-12 -- "Salvation," Book four of the Summa contra gentiles / St. Thomas Aquinas -- From De regno christi / Martin Bucer -- The Qur'an 2:223-42; 4:35 -- From The code of maimonides.
Two anonymous Chinese reflections on divorce -- From Two treatises on government / John Locke -- Divorce / Bertrand Russell -- From The unexpected legacy of divorce / Judith Wallerstein -- Will we grow old together?: From Love and other infectious diseases / Molly Haskell -- "The voices of our informants," from Vital involvement in old age / Erik Erikson and others -- Elegy for Iris / John Bayley -- From Love in the time of cholera / Gabriel Garcia Marquez -- From Alcestis / Euripides -- From Man's search for meaning / Viktor Frankl.
Includes bibliographical references (pages 225-228) and index.
Breaking the silence -- Why a marriage becomes celibate -- Mourning the loss of sex -- Dealing with anger -- Overcoming depression -- Deciding to work on your sex life -- Deciding to leave -- Deciding to stay -- Reaching out -- Epilogue: And now farewell.
Every woman in this book expected frequent and fulfilling sex in her marriage. But now they have been in sexless marriages for 5, 10, even 20 years. Some drifted into celibacy, others chose it suddenly in reaction to a husband's infidelity or for another reason. Some have fought it in every way while others resigned themselves or even accepted it willingly. All shared the need to get their stories out in the open, to examine what sexlessness was doing to them.
Emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Celibate Wives reveals the ramifications of this phenomenon, showing how women blame themselves, make excuses for their husbands, and spiral downward through frustration and anger to depression and other self-destructive behavior. Joan Avna and Diana Waltz not only expose this secret misery, they offer solutions. Easy-to-use lists and exercises, like The Unmailed Letter and Anger on a Scale of 1 to 18, take the reader through the.
Process of grieving for the loss of sex and rebuilding self-esteem. Rather than masking their lives in fantasy to kindle a brief flame of passion, women learn to overcome depression and direct anger into productive channels. As experienced therapists and experienced celibate wives, the authors know there is no answer for every woman. They gently approach the three solutions for celibacy: putting the sex back into marriage, leaving a loveless marriage, and staying in a.
Celibate but otherwise fulfilling relationship. Celibate Wives shows women where they can turn to for help - for example, to women's support groups - for empathy, understanding, and possible solutions. This book brings women to the point where they can make the decision they need to make and feel comfortable with it. Active and courageous women have broken their silence to share the stories of their celibate marriages. They have done this in the hope that other celibate.
Wives might gain support, derive comfort, muster courage, and learn from their experience. Heartrending, frank, and instructive, this book lets celibate wives know they are not alone.